You know how every circle of women has that one friend who is a little bit out there? She’s loud, smart, confident, generous, funny, blunt and willing to let it all hang out (literally, she might whip up her top at a moment’s notice) in the name of honesty, friendship and fun. She’s authentic and inspiring and real.
Imagine taking each of “that friend” from nine different circles of friends and throwing them together in one house for a weekend. Add wine, and you’ve got the most epic girls weekend ever.
Last weekend I headed to Vancouver with (9, 10? I can’t remember) women from BC and Alberta. I had only met one of the women previously – we were friends in an online group, brought together by our blogging and uncompromising honesty.
We stayed at one friend’s lovely house in West Vancouver, sleeping in toddler beds and couches as necessary and sharing just two bathrooms. We went for a lovely lunch in Fort Langley (where we terrified the other patrons with our uncensored talk, laughter and tears), got fitted for bras and hit up an adult store as well. We stayed in for dinner each night and sat around the living room drinking wine, howling with laughter (and crying sometimes too) and talking about our relationships with our partners and friends and ourselves. We talked about our bodies and our sex lives, but never our kids, work or weight (we talk about those enough with our normal friends).
Over dim sum on the Sunday morning we each shared our “take away” from the weekend. What had we learned about ourselves from all the sharing that had happened?
One of the women said that her lesson was that she had to examine her heart and figure out what she really needed from her people (spouse, kids, friends) and then ask for it. She had to start asking for the help, support, attention and love she really needs.
We suggested that not only did she need to start asking, but she had to ask again and again until she got the thing she needed. That some of the people she asked would say no, and that was ok, but it didn’t mean she needed to stop asking. If she really needed something, it might mean hearing no and finding a new person to ask. We have to stop silencing ourselves for the sake of others.
Have you had a girls weekend like this? Or a night out with friends that just blew your mind and changed your perspective forever? I hope you have!